i have a staring problem

Guilty.

If you know me, you know this about me. If you don’t know me, you have probably noticed this about me.

For a long time I actually didn’t notice that this was an issue I have. It wasn’t until a friend of mine confronted me about it that I realized “you’re right! I do-do that!”.

Why do I do this?

Well, I like to think that I am observant. I actually am really observant but I guess that is only because I stare at people. I am usually staring because I see something interesting- an outfit, a conversation between two people who seem passionate and I’m trying to figure out what it is about, something flashy, something unique/different/interesting.

Sometimes this causes problems.

I have now become friends with two people who have recently told me that I am intimidating and they thought I hated them. They both said that I was always glaring at them.

Recently I got caught staring at someone. This is what was going through my head: Hm. They look interesting. I wonder where they are from. I would like to ask them but how do I randomly start talking to them without sounding awkward. Before I had time to come up with an answer I was busted and forced to open my mouth because I didn’t want them to think I was being rude. This is what I said: “Oh. I didn’t mean to stare. I just thought you guys looked interesting and I was wondering if I could ask you some questions.” Ummm. Idiot. (Talking to strangers is another problem I have. I don’t think it is a problem but my friends do.)

Honestly though, I think what is really happening is that I am just a big thinker (not to be confused with deep thinker) and day dreamer . There are times that I could possibly be looking at something or someone and  totally be in “Outer Space” and have no clue that I am staring because I am stuck in my head.

So, for those of you who have fallen victim to my eye balls… I apologize. I don’t hate you. I am not judging you. I might be checking you out. I probably am being nosey. I most likely have no clue that I have or am doing it.

Glad we got that straight.