to tell the truth?

 That is the predicament I am faced with when people ask my opinion on a topic.

Do I tell them the truth and give them my opinion…. or just tell them what I think they really want to hear?

If someone asks my opinion I assume that they really want to know what I am thinking… that is why they are asking right?

I have a debate in my head whenever someone asks for my opinion. It is hardest when I really don’t like something. “Do I tell them what I really think? Do I try to make you feel good about yourself? Are you really asking because you want to know or are you looking for a compliment?”

Want an example? Sometimes if I don’t like something will answer a question with a question: “Do you like my new hair cut?” “Do you like your new hair cut?”. Or maybe I will come out and say “Do you really want to know my opinion?”. I really don’t want to hurt anyones feelings, but I also don’t want to lie to them.

I also feel like I don’t to give people a false opinion of themselves. How do you think all those people end up on American Idol? Because people can’t tell them the truth. They should really know before they make fools of themselves on national TV. Rest assure everyone… I will not let that happen to you!

My Aunt just asked me my opinion on a paint color that has taken her one year to pick out. I said: “I don’t think I should give you my opinion or my advice because it has taken you so long to finally make a decision.” That is honest right? She did tell me she did actually want my opinion. So I told her. I said that I did like the color she picked but if it were me I would pick this color or that color for these reasons… but I do like the color you picked. I know that I could have and probably should have spared her the extra stress by just saying “I love it. I think it is perfect.” but I just couldn’t, she asked my opinion!

Just more random things that I get to think about all day.